From the point of view of a FULL MEMBER...
In a nutshell: Unlimited communication PLUS we
have clever encouragements for free members to contact and reply to you.
As a full member we like you to write what you want, when you want to whom you
want within reason. We have a spam filter and fair usage policy plus you can't
(of course) send rude stuff . It is very unlikely you'll hit the daily limit
unless you are copying and pasting messages to loads of people ...which you
shouldn't be doing.
Free members can always reply to you
Even if you just send a wink - then this opens up a communication corridor
between you so that the free member can reply within seven days. We only time
limit it to encourage the free member to act relatively promptly. If you don't
hear from them within seven days then you have a good excuse to send them
another wink/message to open up another seven day period.
Free members are encouraged to proactively
Their free 'Direct send' messaging quota to FULL members unlocks way before
their quota to Free members and it is also much more generous. Basically it is a
lot easier for them to contact full members than fellow free members.
Free members and contact details
Free members cannot send their email address and phone number to fellow free
members. However, they can send it to you full members.
Prominence for your messages
The messages you send to free members have a big REPLY NOW on them and are given
prominence in their Inbox.
eCards, Read Receipt and CC me a copy
These are exclusive full member features
Our motto is for full members to have more dates
and more fun - so we do everything in our power to get you more dating
opportunities. You'll see from the above that you are very much in the fast lane
compared to free members with respect to communicating. Please do bear in mind
the old saying 'You can lead a horse to water...' Basically we can't force them
to contact/reply to you and it is not in your interests for us to be too
draconian with free members. We still want them joining and telling their
friends about what a good site we are. From your point of view - see free
members as a 'good thing' because when you are in communication with them you
are not facing so much 'competition' as they are limited in their free
member to free member communications.
From the point of view of a FREE MEMBER...
In a nutshell: Lots of winks/icebreakers PLUS
there is some free messaging to fellow free members but you need to do a wee bit
of 'Tagging' to earn this right.
The purposes of our (new) messaging rules are to
a) Generate more 'dating opportunities' by getting all free members do some
Tagging (see bottom of Yes-No-Maybe for explanation)
b) Give a greater incentive for you to contact FULL members
Here are your opportunities to communicate as a
1. You can always reply to full members
If a FULL member writes to you (or even if they just wink at you) then you are
able to reply without any further ado.
...Hint: Vice-versa if you upgrade then all free members can contact you! ;-)
You now have *lots* of winks and icebreakers that you can send to both full and
...The idea is you can send loads of these out to tempt interest in your
3. Quota of 'Direct Send' free messages
Thirdly - if you want to proactively send *messages* then you will be given
a DAILY QUOTA of free messages. You earn this quota by doing a small amount
of tagging every week.
Tag 3 people a
week as Yes/Maybe > you earn the right to
message FULL MEMBERS
Quota = FOUR messages a day to full members.
Hint: If you use up your quota - actively search out and wink at full members -
as if they wink/write back then messaging unlocks between you
Tag 7 people a week
as Yes/Maybe > you earn the right to
message FREE MEMBERS
Quota = ONE message a day to free members
We want you to tag people genuinely.
If you are a very fussy person and cannot find 7 good new people each week -
then simply re-tag some of the existing people you have tagged as Yes/Maybe from
weeks before ...that will count towards your total and unlock the messaging
The above are weekly
quotas - so you don't have to login every day to tag people - you can do it all
in one weekly 5-10 minute session. We may increase these quotas in future - as
we set them as very easy to begin with.
Once you run out of quota you can still 'Lock-Send' messages
to other free members. When you 'Lock-Send' a message the recipient will be notified you would like to be in communicate and can read your message when they upgrade
. This is a good option if they are rich and you are poor but
gorgeous! ;-) ...alternatively they may send you a standard reply saying they're
happy to correspond but not choose to upgrade ...thereby putting the ball back
in your court
FREE MEMBERS & Email address + phone numbers
Full members are (of course!) allowed to send out contact details (email + phone numbers). Conversely Full
members are able to receive everyone's contact details i.e. you can 'Direct Send' your email/phone details to full members
If you are a free member you can also 'Lock-Send' your contact details to other free members. Basically this means the other (free) member is informed you have sent your email address / phone numbers and they can access these once they upgrade.