Don't reveal personal information about yourself
(surname, address, place of work) until you feel entirely comfortable to do so.
The idea of
internet dating is that you
can remain anonymous whilst getting to know potential dates a little better.
You're welcome to exchange as many emails as you wish through our site. However, if you
do wish to exchange 'real' email addresses then you may consider giving them
a 'secondary' email address - as opposed to your main one - particularly if your
main address is a work address e.g. "MaryBloggs@bbc.co.uk". There are many
places you can get free email addresses from and you can usually set up
forwarding or remote checking so that mail sent to this address can be read from
you main mailbox. We recommend Yahoo, Gmail and Hotmail for free email addresses
We suggest that you don't reveal your full name or
home phone number to dates - there's no reason for them to need to know your
surname or where you live.
If you are going to give a phone number then a mobile
is safer - as there is no easy way of tracing this back to your
address. You may well choose to have a cheap, separate "Pay as you Go"
mobile for Internet Dating use. That way even if someone becomes annoying you
just can buy a new SIM card for £10
If your date generously suggests that you
reverse the charges on a call (so that they pay) - don't - as your
number may well appear on their bill. It is now easy and inexpensive to buy a CD
ROM of all (non ex-directory) telephone numbers in the UK that allows reverse
lookup of addresses from phone-numbers.
Deciding to meet in person?
Before you meet someone in person you should be
entirely comfortable about them and the arrangements. Don't feel pressurised
into meeting anyone. It's usually best to have a telephone conversation with
them first. Don't be rushed into a date - if you don't fancy meeting up, then
We suggest that you meet in a public place with other
YES: a pub, winebar, cafe, market, restaurant
NO: your/their house, your/their work, deserted park.
have a mobile phone then it is a good idea to take it with you. You can also
arrange for a friend to call you during the date to check you are OK.
Don't go back to your house or agree to go to their
house until you know each other well enough to do so. We'd suggest that this
would be after at least several dates.
Always have your own transport home and donít
accept a lift.